It’s 11:30 pm and I’m just getting home from work. My wife and son are on the couch watching Forensic Files and he is dancing to the intro music. He has a bad habit of staying awake until I get home, regardless of what time I’m off. But I don’t complain because seeing him run up to me and shout “Daddy! Daddy!” is one of the best feelings in the world. My life isn’t perfect, but there are so many little things about it that are.
Whenever I run into friends or people I’ve worked with or family I don’t see that often, they all tell me or my wife “You guys are goals.” “You have such a perfect little family.” “I want what you guys have.” I get these a lot, and I know my wife does too. It’s a beautiful thing to have people look at us and see the love. People think it has all just happened by design, and that this comes easy to us. But I can honestly say that maintaining a positive mindset and attitude towards life is one of life’s toughest challenges. Finding the perfections in all of our imperfections is a constant battle.
I constantly think to myself about what I want in my future. A good job, a nice house, to be financially and emotionally stable. And I know that all these things will come in time, but I still find myself fighting within myself trying to figure out what the next steps are. I’m not where I want to be in life right now, but I know I’m blessed because I have a roof over my head, I have food on the table for my family, and I have family and friends who love me and care about my well-being. I’m blessed.
But I still see the world and the people in it struggling with the same things. We feel like we need more to be happier. We feel like if we don’t achieve some financial status or if we don’t have a nice house or a nice car or whatever it may be, that we are failing. The difference that separates the happiest people in the world from those who struggle within their own mind is the mindset itself. If we can break that mental block that is holding us back from thinking that we aren’t happy with where we are in life, then we can achieve that happiness we constantly strive for. For so long we have worked on pursuing happiness, when the whole time we have been living it. We just need to open our minds.
I made an attempt to reach out to old friends the other day just to see how they were doing, and the response was overwhelming. Everyone I text actually sent me a text back and cared to see how I was doing. It felt good. And it made me realize something, my little family really is goals. The love my wife and I share not only makes an impact on our son, but it makes an impact on us. We don’t have everything figured out. We aren’t where we want to be financially. We don’t have the dream jobs we want yet. But you know what, that’s all a part of the process. And Joel Embiid told me to Trust The Process.
My best friend once said “The journey is the dream.” Money, friends, and peoples opinions of you come and go, but your happiness is limitless. How happy do you want to be? Who is important to you? What drives you to keep moving forward? Next time you feel like you’re not where you want to be in life, ask yourself these questions and do what you must do to make your happiness the most important thing in life. Don’t be jealous of what others have, be happy with what you have. Our society has learned how to hate, and it has never been taught how to love, so love more. We are on this earth for 100 years maximum if we’re lucky, don’t spend it worrying about your status to the outside world. That’s my love rant for the week. And if nobody has told you today; I love you.
Just a man trying to make the most of his time on this planet.